Do You Give Your Spouse Too Much Freedom?
Welcome back my lovely, ASSASSINS! I hope you all are having a smooth week thus far and continue to do so. Today I’m switching things up a little bit. . . you can say I’m stirring the pot with this post. I’m giving you a disclaimer before you read any further, if you CANNOT handle controversy then this article isn’t for you. I will be speaking MY truths and from others who were kind enough to share their stories with me. Therefore, if you also cannot handle the truth then you should READ THIS instead. Now that’s out the way lets have a serious conversation shall we?
It’s not you, it’s your social media behavior
Relationships are hard; they require lots of trust, communication, adaptation, patience and constantly learning new things about your partner. With them already being hard we live in a world with the devil, better known as social media. If you think social platforms cannot be detrimental to your relationship, then you need to slowly take your head out of the sand. With today’s society and negative social influences, it got me wondering if we all need to “shorten the rope” and have more caution with protecting our relationships.
Times are not how they used to be. The dating pool is slim to none and don’t think you’re excluded because you aren’t a millennial. Nowadays people do not care about having dignity, respect or valuing themselves as a whole (just go on Instagram to see). Even worse, most people do not care if you’re in a committed relationship or married. It’s really a case of, if they see someone they’re attracted to, they will pursue it.
Seek the truth or hide your head in the sand; both require digging. – Andrew Nolan
Lets be honest here. . . A LOT of us have had a time where we put our head in the sand and acted like “everything would be just dandy!” You know, that time when your spouse said they would be going on a all girls or guys trip to Miami during Memorial Day weekend. -____- Like get real. . . do you REALLY think that’s a wonderful idea?! Have you been or heard about Miami during Memorial Day weekend?? I’m sure a lot of you are going to say, “Well that’s where the trust comes in!” Do you know what I have to say in response to that statement? Screw that.
Why? Because I strongly feel that a lot of us put ourselves in places and situations that we have NO BUSINESS being in. Once in a serious relationship or married, it’s not just about you and what you want to do anymore. We have to now consider our partner and take their feelings into consideration BEFORE making decisions. Sure, everyone needs time with their friends. . . just not to a place known for scandalous activity! I know infidelity and bad decisions can happen anywhere, but there’s a difference when you knowingly let your spouse walk into the lion’s den (and then pray on it).
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I’m not just talking about trips to Miami or Cancun either. You or your spouse being somewhere you have no business being can range from attending a party to eating at Moe’s Southwest Grill. Listen, we all have to stop and acknowledge that WE KNOW when we’re setting ourselves up for a possible failure. For example, if your ex is a problem within your current relationship and they work at Pizza Hut, pick up your pizza from Dominoes! LOL. Avoid possible bad situations at all cost!
I know we all like to think we have our lives and decisions completely under control however, ARE YOU GOD??? None of us know what will happen a minute from now. Which leads me to this, if your partner has so much rope that you’re starting to feel like they might hang themselves, REEL THAT ROPE BACK IN! Don’t be the person whose afraid to speak up and voice your concerns. There is no point in being full of anxiety and worrying within any relationship. If your partner doesn’t understand, then that’s a sign you need to reevaluate the person you’re with.
I want to end this by saying, please don’t knowingly be an idiot. We all know when something doesn’t feel right or is a bad idea. We’re all humans that make mistakes and temptation lurks around every corner. So rather than playing with fire, just throw the matches away to begin with. Do we really want to play Russian Roulette with our relationships? Do we want to hope that nothing happens in uncertain situations? We can have all the trust in the world but once you let your spouse walk into the lion’s den, you can’t control how the lion acts. So I want to ask you. . . do you think or have you ever given your spouse too much freedom? Let me know in the comments!
Until next time ASSASSINS. . . Stay Motivated!
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This is an interesting and well written piece. While I do agree with some pointers, I can say, there’s no such thing as too much freedom. Our partners are not kids, they are grown adults and we cannot be constantly policing their every activity just to put our minds at ease. You gave an example about going on a girls’ or boys’ trip on a crazy weekend. You shouldn’t feel the need to stop your partner from enjoying life. If you have concerns, anxieties, you raise them, however, it’s not fair to “reel in the rope” and even say things like “You are not going here or there,” and giving ultimatums also. Whenever I’m traveling, most of which I do solo, I ensure I put my lover’s mind at ease or wherever I’m going for that matter. I believe RESPECT is the epitome of every relationship, not love.
Thanks love! I appreciate your point of view, especially considering that you oftentimes travel solo! This goes to show the many different sides of the topic at hand. Thank you again!