Why You Should Stop Honoring Some of Your Feelings

Feelings, we all have them and it’s totally normal to think you’re obligated to honor them all. I used to immediately react and take action the moment a feeling would make itself known. As I’ve taken my personal development more seriously and learnt more, I’ve realized that all feelings do not need to be honored. Allow me to explain in more detail below!

Some of Your Feelings Aren’t Valid

To make this as simple as possible, I’ll use the best example I think 99% of us can relate to. Sometimes you don’t feel like going to the gym, but you know after every workout you feel better and more accomplished. There may be times when you don’t feel like showing up to work, but you know you have responsibilities to take care of. Do you see the point here? Some of the feelings we get aren’t all valid. If we indulge in and react to them, we end up doing a great disservice to ourselves.

Immediately Reacting on Invalid Feelings Causes More Harm than Good

If you react on invalid feelings, you’ll be causing more harm to yourself than good. For example, you’ve ended a toxic relationship that made you miserable and unhappy. However, after things ended you get a feeling that tells you to mend things. Is this feeling one you should honor and react to? Absolutely not. You know what’s best for you and that you deserve happiness, so why react to that invalid feeling. If you constantly reacted to all feelings (especially the invalid ones), you’ll without a doubt be more unhappy than happy.

Understand it but Do Not Indulge

I’m not telling you to be emotionless or pay your your feelings no mind… that’s self sabotaging! I’m telling you to do the exact opposite. Whenever a feeling comes to you, take a moment to understand where it’s coming from, why you’re experiencing it and if it’s something that should be honored/reacted to. Until you gain internal clarity, my best advice would be to take NO action. However, if you know that feeling is one that shouldn’t be honored, trash it! No need to have an invalid feeling taking up precious real estate within your thoughts. Get rid of it and move on!

Don’t Be Hard On Yourself

It’s very easy to be hard on yourself when/if you fall victim to your own thoughts. We’ve all been there before and training our mind to “honor it” or “trash it” isn’t something that happens easily overnight. So don’t be hard on yourself if you aren’t able to get rid of those “trash it” thoughts! It takes constant practice and consistency to really evolve and rid tough life experiences from our minds. Keep practicing at it and be kind to yourself during the process; it’s for the best!

This has helped me become more in tuned with myself and my feelings. I’m able to categorize “honor it” and “trash it” feelings within my mind. I no longer hold myself captive within my thoughts nor judge myself when/if I get invalid feelings. It’s all apart of life and how we effectively handle it! Of course, always listen to your gut if you’re feeling unsafe, unsettled etc.

Until next time ASSASSINS. . . Stay Disciplined!

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